Marium Gist was born in June of 1848 in Kentucky. In 1870, she married Erasmus I. Stirman (16 April 1840-4 January 1914). He attended Arkansas College and clerked in a dry goods store. In 1861, "Ras" Stirman enlisted as a private in the Pike Guards, a local militia unit and marched north with other southern troops to engage in the Wilson's Creek campaign of southwest Missouri. Ras stayed with the army until 1865, eventually becoming captain of Company E, First Battalion of Arkansas Cavalry and colonel of his own regiment of sharpshooters. Following the war, Ras and his sister Rebecca (also a founding lady of the Southern Memorial Association) returned to Fayetteville. Ras became an attorney and was elected mayor of Fayetteville on 24 August 1870. In 1879 the couple moved to Denver, Colorado, where Ras died in 1914. The 1880 Colorado Census shows the couple living in Denver with the following children: Mary P., Gertrude, Nellie R. and William J.G. Erasmus Stirman served as a Colorado State Representative from Lake City 1885-1886.